We all love to plan things according to our preferences, often in ways that make us feel comfortable. Many times, we succeed, and the credit goes to our devotion to the task at hand.
But what happens when things don’t go as planned? What if, despite your dedication, something goes wrong and derails your efforts?
Now, before you label me a pessimist, let’s pause to embrace a practical approach to life. After all, pessimists are often considered realists in disguise!
When things don’t go as planned—especially when you’ve pinned high expectations on them—how do you react?
There are generally two types of people in such situations:
- Those who get depressed.
- Those who get angry.
For now, let’s focus on understanding the second reaction: anger.
Why Do We Get Angry?
At first glance, it’s easy to say that we get angry because of our inability to complete a task. But if we dig deeper, we’ll find a more nuanced explanation.
We often hear the advice: “Have fewer expectations; it’s the key to happiness.”
You might have seen people posting similar quotes on social media. But have you ever stopped to think about why fewer expectations can lead to a happier life?
The Root Cause of Anger
When we plan something, it’s natural to imagine how things will unfold. Instead of accounting for potential challenges, we tend to envision everything going perfectly and smoothly. This is especially true when we feel overly confident about our approach.
Then comes the reality check.
When things don’t go as expected, our carefully imagined picture clashes with the reality in front of us. This mismatch between the two creates internal turmoil, which often manifests as anger.
In essence, anger arises when the reality doesn’t align with our expectations.
How to Overcome Anger
The good news? There’s a simple way to address this.
- Take Time for Self-Reflection
Step away from the situation and spend some time alone. Reflect on the root cause of your anger. - Compare the Two Pictures
Visualize the picture you had in your mind versus the reality that unfolded. Identify the differences between the two. - Bridge the Gap
Once you recognize the differences, think about how you can adjust your expectations or adapt your actions to bring the two pictures closer together.
This process of realization and adjustment helps you take control of your emotions. It relieves you from the clutches of anger and allows you to move forward with clarity.
Final Thoughts
If you’re brave enough to bring positive changes to your life, learning to manage anger is a great place to start. It’s not an easy journey, but it’s one worth taking.
Remember, growth often begins outside your comfort zone. So, instead of feeling uncomfortable, feel excited about the opportunity to improve yourself.
You’ve got this!
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