I have always tried to understand why we do what we do, and it has taken me on a long journey to comprehend myself and how my surroundings play an important role in what I strive to become. I know I’m a people pleaser; I have observed myself making efforts to please certain individuals in my life. But I don’t particularly see anything wrong with that. I find happiness in making others smile, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that either.
First of all, we must stop telling ourselves that we are doing something wrong. I used to repeat that to myself daily, and it really affected how I thought. We are allowed to make mistakes, and they should only be called mistakes. Most of the time, things are not really about being wrong or right. When you put a perspective on anything, you’ll base it on your opinions, and that’s all it is. Life is how you choose to see it. Sometimes, we perceive what we don’t want to see, but we see it the way we know how.
Most of the time, we don’t want to put ourselves through struggle, yet we don’t know how to end the suffering. Lacking guidance, we struggle, struggle, and struggle. I did that too, and I still do because life isn’t the same every day. Even though I have always made an effort to understand my reality, the future remains complicated, and I’m always anxious about what lies ahead.
I seek advice, yet I question whether it truly fits my life. When I delve into my depths, I only see tangles of fears, insecurities, and regrets. Despite observing a great deal of darkness, I still feel immensely grateful to recognize a light in my life. I don’t quite understand where that light comes from, but I have begun to believe it’s my mum. She is the light in my life and my motivation. My motivation to keep making the effort to breathe every day and to make progress, even if it simply involves waking up and getting dressed to leave for work.
I have found my light, but that doesn’t mean I don’t question my existence daily. The questions never stop; in my opinion, they only grow. Every day, I encounter things that might trigger me, and I let them trigger me, subsequently reaping the consequences. This perfectly illustrates the idea that sometimes you just don’t know how to stop the suffering, no matter how tired you are of it.
I’m tired, and instead of taking a pause, I want my suffering to just vanish. But my intellectual mind knows I’m asking for something impossible to happen.
So, a pause it is.
But what’s interesting is that I think a pause is only for a day or a week. Which makes me wonder whether it is worth it. I’ve worked so hard, faced so much, and I only get to pause for a week at most?
But now I ask myself, who told me that? No one. I just imagined that’s how it would be.
You can take as much time as you need to make yourself stand up again. You know how much you’ve put into yourself, so you know how much time you need to recover. It’s completely fine to sit down for a while and take a breath.
Sit down, take a breath, and start whenever you think you can give your best.
You need to define what a pause looks like to you. To me, a pause is taking a break from all the overthinking I do daily—like my career planning, worrying about what could go wrong, or what if I fail in life, which makes me exhausted. But there are times when I just want to get rid of these thoughts. That’s my pause.
I’ll explore in my coming articles how to take my kind of pause, but till then, I need to figure it out first—hehehe.
Life isn’t always supposed to be miserable. And even when it feels that way, you don’t have to be. You have the power to seek moments of peace, to redefine what happiness means for you, and to take the time you need to heal. Because at the end of the day, life is yours to live—not just to endure.
It’s a beautiful reminder of the power in taking a pause. Thank you for sharing your journey; it truly inspires
Many have got the thoughts But few have got the courage to write. Keep it up roop
This was such a heartfelt and relatable one. It’s a great reminder that taking a break is okay and sometimes necessary. Looking forward to your next post on how to do it. So, let’s take a break together!
This article honestly is the one that took me sometime to understand not because of anything wrong but because it wraps up a lot of things which if spoken can take a lot of time. First of all, I belive that if we rely on to make someone happy to get happiness. Then I belive there is for sure a lesson awaiting in the future when our hearts break because we can’t make everyone happy even if we try our best to make everyone happy then we will not be able to live the life we should that’s what I think cause the suffering. But I agree that we struggle until and get clear guidance and then our suffering reduces but it ends when we truly want it to end. We generally all don’t want suffering to end except for a few because we love what we think is good. Keep giving us good content. Love it and admire the hard work it take to put your emotions and feelings in writing.
First of all, thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts. I love reading them. I knew I should have explained that part more when I was talking about making efforts for certain individuals in my life. I think I’ve already learned my lesson from trying to make everyone happy, but I’m glad I’ve moved on from that. At the same time, I’m not someone who believes that one can survive this life independently. I believe that we all live interdependently, and I’m someone who derives my happiness from making efforts for the people I care about in my inner circle. It’s not that big, but these are the people who listened to me when I was at my lowest, supported me, and believed in me. They helped me get back up, so when I make efforts for them and bring a smile to their face, it’s my way of saying that I’m grateful to have them in my life.
Without adding context, things can be misunderstood or taken the wrong way, so thank you for pointing that out.